Buck's Fan Mail

Hi Buck,
I'm a 35 year-old mom from Canton, Massachusetts (just outside of Boston). I have never seen any of your films, and have just heard your name for the first time within this past week. Basically, I just saw the documentary that you did here in the States on your career, and was completely blown away. You are one incredibly hot dude, and I am awed at what you have overcome to be who and where you are in your life right now.
I've spent some time over the last few days (since I saw the "Secret Lives of Women" documentary) reading about you and watching a lot of your interviews on YouTube. I'm sending this email because I know that it's been tougher for you to find acceptance here in the USA, and I felt compelled to raise my voice and tell you that THIS American really admires you, thinks you're gorgeous (physically and spiritually), and wants to let you know that I think what you're doing is truly fantastic.
I've also been inspired by you and have recently started a dialogue with my three-year-old daughter about children who are born different. (More accurately, I've expanded our ongoing dialogue about not judging someone because of things like different skin color/racial makeup, handicaps, etc. to include transgender issues.) Being "born different" is a subject she can relate to, because she was born with her esophagus disconnected in the middle (a condition called tracheal esophageal fistula with esophageal atresia ... or TEF/EA for short). The top half of her esophagus basically dead-ended a short way down, and the lower half was connected to her windpipe. Eating was impossible for her, and every time she took a breath, her stomach would fill with air. She required a life-saving reconstructive surgery when she was a day old to make it physically possible for her to eat. She's had multiple follow-up procedures to address complications from the initial surgery. Because of this, she is fully aware of the fact (even at her young age) that you can't help the way that you're born, and she's sensitive to the fact that it can be really hard when your body doesn't grow the way it should have. After our discussion today, she decided that if she ever makes friends with a transgendered child, she's going to "yell at" anyone who tries to make fun of them or teases them!!!
That being said ...
I wish there was a way to reach out to local parents of transgendered children in my daughter's age group (who often fear anyone finding out the truth about their child's gender identity issues) and let them know that there is a family here where all the members would accept their child for who he or she is, without judgment or question. Rather than be put off by the thought of my child having a transgendered playmate, I would welcome the opportunity for her to continue learning acceptance of other's differences at as early an age as possible.
In general, I'm proud of the fact that there is a slowly growing awareness about the transgendered community (particularly children) in my neck of the woods. I'm sure you already know this, but Boston's Children's Hospital recently opened the Gender Management Service Clinic -- partially to help transgendered children. I understand that it's the first clinic of its kind that is geared strictly towards servicing children and adolescents.
I'd love to get your opinion on whether or not you think it would be too forward of me to reach out to some of the parents there?? I would hate to think that there is a kid out there with no friends who accept them when my daughter would with open arms.
I'm sure you get tons of mail, and I don't really expect a response, but ... considering that I don't personally know anyone who is transgendered, I would rather get the opinion of someone who has been there before making any attempt to reach out to families of transgendered kids. I don't want to put anyone off, or weird them out. I'm just aware of how hard it must be for kids who often live in fear of being "exposed" to their playmates, and would like to offer some of them a place where they could be safe and accepted.
Meanwhile, I really did want to reach out and let you know how truly incredible you are. I'd love to actually get a chance to see some of your movies someday (right now, I can't even rent one, since I've been laid off for almost a year, and I'm flat broke!), even though it's going to really weird out my straighter-than-straight boyfriend. (He's a trip ... he has nothing against anyone who is GBLT, but he's one of those guys who is so straight that they make a ruler look crooked.) Meanwhile ... I'm so happy that I've learned about you!! Keep up the good work!!!
By the way ... the phrase "man pussy" is completely fucking awesome!!!
Peace,

(PS. I guess if you pigeonholed me, I'd say I'm 85% heterosexual ... mostly straight, but with a few kinks in the chain [*grin*]. In essence, I'm more attracted to men than women, but I've certainly found my fair share of women sexually attractive. Regardless of the fact that I'm generally attracted more to men, I've never felt uncomfortable with my occasional attraction/sexual exploits with other women. [So you, being the "man with the pussy" are seriously intriguing to me ... LOL!!!] In general, I've always viewed sexuality as a sort of sliding scale, where everyone has their niche along the way. I hate the thought of anyone slapping a label on me about my sexuality, which I'm sure is a sentiment that you might relate to. I'm not straight, or lesbian, or bisexual, I'm just ME, and I'm just sexual, period.)